“Why is it,” he said, one time, at the subway entrance, “I feel I’ve known you so many years?”
“Because I like you,” she said, “and I don’t want anything from you.”
― Ray Bradbury
They say today’s generation doesn’t know how to sustain a relationship. It’s true, but have you considered why it is the way it is? I am not going to judge it as a good or a bad thing but just going to try to add a new perspective to the equation here.
It’s true that most of the times our dates and relationships fail us, but that’s only because we want something more. We are at an outlook for something much more pure. Perhaps we don’t look for lovers, what we our looking for is a companion.
Maybe we believe that dependency, in itself, is not the right thing to do, which is why by having a better half what we really are trying to find is our own self.
What we don’t realise is that with changed times, the need and requirment has changed. Maybe relationships are not supposed to last. Maybe you are just supposed to grow from them while with that person. People change all the time. If we change with time, how can we expect the other person to not? If you really want the other person to stick around, you need to accept that change which, frankly, is just not easy most of the times. And if you think that the change is hampering your growth, feel free to get out of that relationship without feeling guilty. Trust me, you are doing both of you a favor.
History itself says that in most cases soulmates are never supposed to be together. I would like to quote Elizabeth Gilbert here.
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. “
Remember, it is an individual journey. Each to his own. That person you so adore, is your companion in this journey and NOT your life. Your life is your journey. Don’t get me wrong, I love to see a happy couple growing old together. I see that everywhere around me in my elderly. All I am trying to say is, if that’s not working out for you, walk away. But, at the same time, make sure you are clear and open about it. You really don’t have to be mean about it either.
Grow, that’s all.